Thursday, March 12, 2020

No Hugging?


One of my sisters received unfavorable responses today when she hugged two different people.  I've been refraining from hugging lately because of my cold and not because of you-know-what. 

I'm wondering now. How do you feel? It's totally understandable, yah. I don't mind being hugged, but I wouldn't want to hug somebody who doesn't want to be hugged.  But then, what do you do to not be offensive?

Maybe I'll just keep saying I have a cold even when I'm pau being sick. 

10 comments:

Anonymous said...

I’m not really a hugger by nature but became a hugger because I married into a big loving Hawaiian ohana, where everybody hugs and honi. In this very concerning time, and being a germophobe I have no problem not initiating the hug or handshake, however, being brought up to be polite, I feel uncomfortable telling someone not to hug me or shake my hand. I think I’ll just say the CDC says people 60 years and older need to practice social distancing so I need to pass on the hug or handshake. LOL 😂

Izsmom

Anonymous said...

Mostly, I avoid contact but laugh about it to lessen the impact. I stick out my elbow (bro hug?) and giggle with the other person.

jalna said...

Izsmom, LOL.

Anon, I like that. I'm sure people will understand and probably be thankful too, yah.

Susan said...

It’s hard when we live on an island where a peck on the cheek among friends/family is normal. If I notice my friend or family reaching out for a peck I oblige but I don’t initiate it. I’m more careful with not touching my face with my bare hands now. Maybe I should just wear a 😷. We stopped handshaking at church for now.

Kay said...

We're not doing any hugging these days... or handshakes. Even our zumba teacher today stopped high fives or elbow bumps. Instead she laughed and waved at everybody at the end of our session.

Honolulu Aunty said...

I am not the huggy type so I don't initiate hugs. When I grew up in a typical Japanese household, nobody hugged and it wasn't until way later in life that it became the norm. It must be hard for people in France, Italy, etc. where hugging and kissing are traditional.

Anonymous said...

Depending on who it is, I'd smile say oops sorry corona! if not anyone I like or they're being rude I'd just say 'no thanks' and if they get offended well they're ignorant of the news IMO. I went to Walmart and wiped everything down with those wipes they offer for free.










Chet Colson said...

Yes, that's a difficult one.Lately,I've been giving friends that chicken wing greeting.You make contact with your forearms (like chicken floppy their wings) or a do the fist������ bump,then bust out the hand sanitizer, if the other person wants to use it. This COVID-19 has changed the paradigm for greeting people.

jalna said...

Susan, I realize that I touch my face a lot!

Kay, I think adding humor is great.

Aunty, and Europe is taking gas too yah.

Anon, good idea to wipe down when you can.

Chet, LOL, "chicken wing greeting". Funny name.

Leslie's pics said...

i feel weird not hugging :(